carli and i are going to re-read warrior cats together

this is why she’s my best friend

Sunspots | Nine Inch Nails



I have this theory that people are either Family people, Partner people or Friend people. Like, people always lean to one of the three kinds of relationships as their main social priority, they can enjoy all three but one of them is the most important and they feel out of balance if it’s not in their lives.

Like, I’m pretty much fine with anyone coming and going into my life as long as I maintain strong family bonds, and I’ve met countless people who literally are wrecks without a romantic partner in their lives, or who need friends like they need air.

I think this depends on lots of things and it’s probably a very simplified, generalized idea but I think about it a lot and it helps me to understand the choices people make sometimes.

I dunno, what do you guys think?

I’ve been thinking about this theory again and reading some comments I got on it and I’ve got another co-theory.

I think people end up a Family/Friend/Partner person based off which kind of relationship gave them their first and strongest feelings of validation.

So if you actually got along well with your family as a kid and your parents gave you the love, support and respect you needed, you’re likely to value family first. If you didn’t get those things from them, and instead experienced your first validation from a romantic partner or friend(s), you’re likely to put the most efforts into those relationships.

But this is the thing, if you don’t keep YOURSELF in mind FIRST, as being the very most important person in your life, you’ll always be chasing the first high of that initial validation, even if the other players have changed.

So If you had a really strong family unit, then it falls apart or changes or becomes suddenly unhealthy, you’ll be devastated, and do anything you can to try and keep it together. If you are in a relationship that breaks up, or even becomes abusive, you’ll still feel you need it in your life or that you’re worthless without it. If your group of friends turns out to be toxic or puts strange social pressures on you, doesn’t matter, you’ll do whatever it takes to keep them.

So I think the best thing to do is probably try and be a Self Person, take care of yourself first and you’ll be able to more easily sus out the people who really and truly deserve your love and attention. :)


the thing about being someone who’s never catcalled is that you start to wonder why like is it because im ugly???

and then you realize that youre judging your worth by whether or not you are objectifiable to a man and thats so fucked up like honestly its so fucked up 

but the worst part about the patriarchy is that it still sits at the back of your mind regardless like “nobody thinks youre pretty because they dont see you as a sex object” like somehow thats a desirable thing and it fucks me up


original photo by anton corbijn. for vogue


burned my hand curling my hair today

worth it


BIG WOLVE HUG!! (by Sander van der Wel)


Keeper of the Three; 2014
watercolor, india ink & white gel pen on sketchbook paper


Fenna by Pleun* on Flickr.


FKA, Ballpoint drawing with digital color. 

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